Showing posts with label personal goals. Show all posts
Showing posts with label personal goals. Show all posts

Tuesday, 14 January 2014

5 New Year Resolutions For Singles

Going into a New Year and you are single. It's not the worst thing that could happen. Instead of making resolutions you won't stick to, try these easy resolutions that can make your year as a single a whole lot better.
1. Out with the Old and in with the New. This does just a " New Year" phrase, but can be a statement in regards to your relationships. If a person is not is not in your present, then there is a reason for that. Stop trying to figure out why they are not there, stop trying to bring the bad relationships karma with you into future relationships, and stop trying to figure out what you did wrong. Because whatever the answer to those questions may be, it does not matter. All that matters is the present and moving froward. So if you are stuck on past people or relationships, do not let that drama come with you into the new year. Let it go.
2. Make a resolution that makes you better. You can always make a resolution not to be single. But look at the reasons that are keeping you from a relationship. Look at making a resolutions that makes you a better and make you feel more confident. This could be working out, taking classes, or taking better care of your health. A better feeling you, means that your confidence level will soar through the roof, and people around you will notice. And you never know, being a better you, may attract a better person.
3. Get out, get up, and go somewhere. If you are constantly visiting the same bars, clubs, and places. And your still single. Then guess what, it may be time for a change. If the places that you were going to didn't work out so well, why not step out of your comfort zone and try something or somewhere different. One thing that borders on the side of being uncool, is when you walk in the bar and everyone knows your name. They know what you are going to order, they know all about your personal business, and because you frequent there so much the bar tender gave you a Christmas card for the holidays. Its a little lame. Try a little change of scenery.
3. Dress up. Dressing up can be an underestimated thing. I dare you to go outside with no make up on, sweats, and looking like the hot mess express and see how much attention you get. Then I dare you to look your finest meaning make up, perfume, and putting some thought into your appearance. It is not just about other people that will notice you because of your appearance. But looking your best also makes you feel good about yourself. And when you feel good about yourself. Other people take notice as well.
4. Don't Worry be Happy. If you are going into the new year single. Don't fret and get all upset and depressed about it. Enjoy your life anyway. Weather you are having a dinner for one or two, just be joyful. If you are a depressed single, then what makes you think that someone else is magically going to make you happy. Other people do not make you happy. You make yourself happy, and allow the other person to add on to your awesome package of happiness. Often times, when people see you are happy on your own, they are more open to being in a relationships with you, because they assume that you are not going to be Debbie Downer the whole time.
So if you are going into the new year single. Fret not. It is not the end of the world. Just enjoy your life, and your New Year resolution should be to make your life better than it was last year. Weather you are with someone or not.


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Sunday, 30 June 2013

Why Do People Get Trapped Inside Their Circumstances?

I've thought about this a lot...So have others, others that are even more influential than myself. That's a good thing, because our world should become a better place.I sometimes wonder why certain people will never rise to the level of success I know they're capable. Is it preconditioning? Is it bad parenting? Is it their belief system? 

I have the tendency to think that's it's probably a culmination of all of the above and then some. Then I wonder if there's really a God and if so why would some people be born into lives of poverty when it comes to their mind set or life set. Their circumstances in other words.We all have the ability to make new decisions. Perhaps there are some exceptions in the case of disabled folks that simply don't possess the ability to think cognitively. It's just a huge wonder to me is all. 

I wish that I could somehow instill or give someone the tools to think the type of thoughts that would enable them to press into the potential they possess.I really just don't get it, I wish I did. Perhaps the more I study the matter the more I'll learn about why people really have the life circumstances they do. I feel lucky and blessed to have the skills and gifts that I do. I should be sharing them more often with folks that don't have these privileges, shouldn't I? 

It's too bad, but I think people really have to have the desire and the passion to want to see past the crap that is seemingly surrounding them. If they don't at least get to that point it's going to be a lifelong struggle.It's bothersome to see people struggling with things that down deep they really don't want to struggle with but they do for some reason. Overweight people, broke people, people that have problems with relationships, people that have run ins with the law and end up in prison or dead. It would almost seem as if we're possessed at times. 

Until we wake up and realize that we do have the choice to turn around our lives, we'll continue to flounder without any true direction other than waking up and going to work in the morning, watching tv, going out to eat every once in a while and hopefully being able to go on a vacation or two.I don't know you, whoever you are that is reading this but maybe you're totally content with everything in your life and that's great. 

There's nothing wrong with that, unless of course you find yourself torn inside about wanting to do more or give more and you're just not taking the kinds of actions that you know you should be.This brings us back to the title of this article, so I think that the reason we seem to get trapped in our circumstances is just simply because of our decisions. Our decisions make our circumstances so. Some of us are afraid of making new decisions because fear of the unknown. That's the number one fear of man...If we can learn to get past that in our day to day lives and make new decisions then we can get out of doldrums and move into a new life experience but until we're ready and move into the unknown we'll never know what we're capable of. 

Do you have a dream? Do you want to impact peoples lives in a positive way but aren't sure where to start? How about just deciding that that's what you want. Some folks including myself have a really hard time deciding what it is they want. It's a vague misty conception a lot of the time.

Monday, 8 April 2013

Magic of Goal Manifestation

What goals do you have for your life? If you have goals, is it just in your head? Or do you have a methodology to manifest them? A systematic process to think of anything you want, and ultimately acquire it. Sounds like magic, doesn't it? That is because by using a process, the results are so effective that it seems like something out of a fantastic anecdote. For the beginner, I recommend the following undemanding two-step process: First step: Elaborately envision the goal. For example, if your goal is to move into a new house by the middle of next year, then close your eyes and picture the house clearly. Be specific; for example, be exact about the neighborhood. And the smell... Imagine what everything would smell like! Can you smell your favorite food that you are cooking in your new huge kitchen? Can you smell the faint fragrance of the roses in the backyard through that open window? Can you get the soft whiff of the ocean as it roughly clashes on the rocks a few hundred feet from your balcony? Can you hear it? Can you hear the ocean? Can you hear the pale, but the unmistakably robust sound of the waves? Touch the leather on the recliner. Can you feel the abounding texture? Can you see the deep luxuriant color? Can you smell the plush tang of rich leather? If you have trouble conjuring up images of your own creation, then you must spend more time dreaming about the things, which make you happy. Certainly, if you practice the above exercise again, you will see the difference. You may need some practice in conjuring up your future reality. Second step: Write it down. Write it down in detail. Write it and read it. Read it every day. Do not forget those details that make the goals worth living. For example, do not just visualize the house, envision it with the people you feel affection for, and care for, in it with you. Take one goal at a time, and you will realize that how you acquire your objectives is not important, but the reasons you want to acquire them are. The reasons are the feelings you create in yourself, when you envision your dreams so unmistakably. There are many paths to the goal. In fact, there are infinite paths, with infinite variables intermingling at every possible junction. We often make the mistake of concentrating all our energies on this most complicated arrangement, instead of the goal itself. Remember, if you take one goal at a time, then there is only one goal, that one dream. All paths lead to that one goal. Concentrate on that, and everything in your life will be orchestrated to gently deliver you to your goal. In my most recent book, "If You Row, You Will Not Drift - Perfect Life Management - The Life Wizard", I take the techniques of management of the fortune 500 companies, and use them to run our everyday lives. So you can finally get organized and row ahead with a purpose. The secret here is the management of your thoughts, and its final direction toward everything that you want. As I conducted the goal manifestation process every time I thought of having something worthwhile in my life, the stronger my faith got. Perhaps it is the combination of vision, determination, and prayer. Or perhaps it is something so unexplained that the universe throws at us, which the humans cannot even conceive at the present time, but it works.



Personal Productivity Begins at Home

For the majority of people, home and family form the center of their lives. When things are going well at home, they tend to go better in all aspects of life - especially the levels of personal productivity. Factors that contribute to a harmonious home life are: loving, healthy relationships, finances, and an organized, clean, smooth-running household. Each of those could be discussed at length, but in this article let's look at the organized, clean, smooth-running household and why it is important. Home should be a haven, the place where we feel safe, can be ourselves, completely relax, laugh, play, work, and enjoy intimate relationships with family members. Of course, that is a description of the ideal home, and most homes are a variation of that description. However, the more organized, clean and comfortable it is, the better the description will fit. A messy home environment that lacks organization can be extremely stressful. It takes it toll on everyone and everything - especially on productivity for all member of the family. My mother used to say, "An organized home is the mark of an organized mind," and organization is a critical component of productivity. It is difficult to be productive when hours each day are wasted looking for things that you can't find, when you are stressed because the clutter surrounding you is disturbing and seems to reproduce itself on a daily basis, or when you feel like your life is out of control because there are not enough hours in the day to do everything that needs to be done. There are those who do not have a natural ability, nor were they taught as children how to create and maintain an organized home, but it can be learned - and is well worth the effort. Once it is done, it will make your life (and the lives of your family) much easier and more productive. If you are among those for whom the learning curve is going to be steep, be patient with yourself! Learning something new takes time and determination. Your fabulously organized home is not going to magically appear because you want it to - wishing will not make it so. You have to be committed to making it happen. So, how do you start? Create a Plan Use some type of organizer - a large desk calendar or a white board are both good choices. Create an overall plan, enlist the support of your family, if at all possible, and begin to move forward. First step is to identify each of the areas that need to be organized. Then, break down each area into smaller steps, and then even smaller. Also create a realistic timeline for each area. There is no doubt that your family is very busy and depending on the state of organization (or disorganization) in your household, the project could take a while. That is OK and to be expected. DO NOT try to tackle every thing at once. Once you have your overall plan in place with a realistic timeline, which could be over a period of weeks or months, begin working on the project in small chunks (a day at a time). Each evening, spend a few minutes planning what you are going to do the next day to organize your home and the way your family lives - then do it! Be realistic in your goals and make sure they are fulfilled each day. Small steps are easy, give you a sense of accomplishment, and as each is completed, momentum begins to build. AS you are planning each day, be sure to include meals, meal prep, appointments, children's activities, work schedules, and personal/family time. I recommend that you use Cozi Family Calendar to keep track of appointments, events, activities, and individual responsibilities. It also includes TO DO lists (you can have one per family member), and a journal, which could be used to document your journey through this new adventure. It can be accessed online and used by the entire family with only one user name and password. And... the best part - you can set up reminders that will send text messages to individual SmartPhones. I use it all the time. It has been an incredible tool for me and my family. Schedule House Cleaning Activities When I was growing up, certain things were done on certain days. Monday was wash day. Tuesday was ironing day. Wednesday was working in the yard, etc.... and Saturday was cleaning house day - top to bottom. I am completely serious - and it worked well. In fact, I recommend it. In the beginning, you will have to do some serious de-cluttering. Clean out your cupboards, your closets, and your garage - and your cars. Get rid of everything that you do not use - old electronic gadgets, garden tools, and all those things that you have kept because you "may use it someday." You will be amazed at how good this feels and the relief it brings. The best part is that there will be more room in the house to enjoy each other, to move, to play, and to work (business, personal and school assignments) - and believe it or not, there will be more room in your mind for clear thinking. Now for the fun part of the planning... Organize Family Activities Have regular mealtimes for the entire family - and make those sacred. These should be the time to relax, laugh, and talk about your day - as a family unit. Schedule a family day - or at least a family evening once a week - again, the time should be sacred time reserved for enjoying each other. Have a once-a-month family outing or project. For example, a picnic in the mountains, a day at the beach, serving at a local homeless shelter, taking a day trip to a local tourist spot, etc. Be creative. Have a different member of the family plan the day each month. The possibilities are endless. If you want all family members, including you, to increase their personal productivity levels - organizing the home and family is the place to start!