Why Do People Get Trapped Inside Their Circumstances?

I've thought about this a lot...So have others, others that are even more influential than myself. That's a good thing, because our world should become a better place.I sometimes wonder why certain people will never rise to the level of success I know they're capable. Is it preconditioning? Is it bad parenting? Is it their belief system? 

I have the tendency to think that's it's probably a culmination of all of the above and then some. Then I wonder if there's really a God and if so why would some people be born into lives of poverty when it comes to their mind set or life set. Their circumstances in other words.We all have the ability to make new decisions. Perhaps there are some exceptions in the case of disabled folks that simply don't possess the ability to think cognitively. It's just a huge wonder to me is all. 

I wish that I could somehow instill or give someone the tools to think the type of thoughts that would enable them to press into the potential they possess.I really just don't get it, I wish I did. Perhaps the more I study the matter the more I'll learn about why people really have the life circumstances they do. I feel lucky and blessed to have the skills and gifts that I do. I should be sharing them more often with folks that don't have these privileges, shouldn't I? 

It's too bad, but I think people really have to have the desire and the passion to want to see past the crap that is seemingly surrounding them. If they don't at least get to that point it's going to be a lifelong struggle.It's bothersome to see people struggling with things that down deep they really don't want to struggle with but they do for some reason. Overweight people, broke people, people that have problems with relationships, people that have run ins with the law and end up in prison or dead. It would almost seem as if we're possessed at times. 

Until we wake up and realize that we do have the choice to turn around our lives, we'll continue to flounder without any true direction other than waking up and going to work in the morning, watching tv, going out to eat every once in a while and hopefully being able to go on a vacation or two.I don't know you, whoever you are that is reading this but maybe you're totally content with everything in your life and that's great. 

There's nothing wrong with that, unless of course you find yourself torn inside about wanting to do more or give more and you're just not taking the kinds of actions that you know you should be.This brings us back to the title of this article, so I think that the reason we seem to get trapped in our circumstances is just simply because of our decisions. Our decisions make our circumstances so. Some of us are afraid of making new decisions because fear of the unknown. That's the number one fear of man...If we can learn to get past that in our day to day lives and make new decisions then we can get out of doldrums and move into a new life experience but until we're ready and move into the unknown we'll never know what we're capable of. 

Do you have a dream? Do you want to impact peoples lives in a positive way but aren't sure where to start? How about just deciding that that's what you want. Some folks including myself have a really hard time deciding what it is they want. It's a vague misty conception a lot of the time.

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Belief Systems: Living a Happiness Versus Fear Based Life

Ponder this: It is announced that Sally will be receiving a promotion to the Director of Human Resources. Her former role was a manager in Accounting. Some of her peers come up and congratulate her on her new found success. It is clear that some of these people are sincere and others are buttering Sally up, looking for a new job and perhaps a promotion under Sally in her new role. Others don't bother to congratulate her. Some of these people are jealous of Sally's new role, even though they didn't have an interest in it, while others just go about their business as if nothing significant has happened. Have you ever wondered why some people react in certain ways while others react in a completely different way? Take a moment and think about the last time you experienced anger. Frustration. Admiration. Happiness. Loneliness. What was underneath those emotions? I would like to propose that emotions are simply a symptom of a reaction to your perception and that your perception comes from a system of beliefs that you have had ingrained in you since you were only a small child. A different way of saying this could be: You developed a system of beliefs by the time you were five or six years old based on your environment and parent's teachings. This belief system has formed the way you perceive the world because your brain runs your experiences and interactions through its filter. Therefore, all of your actions and reactions are simply a symptom of how you and your brain perceive the world. Emotions are a reaction to how you have interpreted a particular stimulus. The tricky thing about emotions is that they can feel so real because they are based on our individual perception. In fact, they are "real". The concern comes in when our emotions block our ability to ask ourselves where they are coming from and why we react this way or that. Not only can we mask our emotions, but our emotions can be a mask themselves. If all emotions could be boiled down into their rawest form what they be? Some experts theorize that all of our decisions are based on two basic emotions; i) happiness, and ii) fear. Think about some of the decisions you have made in your life, some very insignificant - what should I have for lunch today? And some very significant - should I change jobs? You can easily convince yourself that any or all of these decisions was based on wanting to feel happiness or to avoid fear. Sometimes it's a combination of both. Based on the experiences in my own life I would suggest that this is probably accurate to some degree. Perhaps these decisions aren't based on overwhelming happiness or fear but if you ask yourself why enough times and answer honestly I bet you will see there is a decision to feel happiness or fear lingering somewhere deep down in every single decision you make. For example, a close friend of mine often decides not to get groceries on a Sunday afternoon. He knows that getting groceries in a crowded store can be frustrating for him. Why is it frustrating? Because people get in my way and the line-ups are too long. Why is that frustrating to you? Because it is a waste of my time and I can't get the items I want, the shelves are always empty by the end of the weekend. You can see in the above example there is fear that my close friend won't be able to get the items he wants and he will waste his time. I'm certain this is not a gripping fear, nor is it something that would starve, him if Sunday was the only day in his week to get groceries. Alternatively, going on a Tuesday, when the shelves have just been restocked and the lines are small makes my friend happy. So what can one do to overcome this dilemma of two extremes? Of course the intent of this article is not to tell you to stop feeling. That is impossible and useless. Instead, become aware of your emotions from time to time in your life. Ensuring you are practicing introspection, mindfulness, and self-awareness. Are you hearing your own voice? Consider the beliefs that provoke your emotional reactions. Are they based on happiness or fear or a combination of the two? Consider if your beliefs and emotional reactions are affecting your decisions in a way that is beneficial to living your best life or if they are something that needs to be changed. It is possible to change a belief system that you have developed and unconsciously nurtured since you were a small child. It takes practice and doesn't happen overnight but it is possible with the right training. If emotionally you find conflict with your beliefs, it's a good indication that the belief is no longer serving you. There is nothing to say you must hold onto or blame others for beliefs that you were taught and nurtured before this time. The realization that it is no longer serving a purpose or even in some cases causing you psychological harm is enough to stop reconciling the past and focus on what you have in front of you.http://ezinearticles.com/?Belief-Systems:-Living-a-Happiness-Versus-Fear-Based-Life&id=7656097

How Core Beliefs Become Learning Behaviors

Enriched learning is all about the effective absorption and integration of new material. The more you know about the concepts, the more you will find out things unknown to your parents, to teachers, and even to neuroscientists just a decade ago. For instance, ninety-five percent of your behavior reflects patterns and habits mostly acquired when you were very young. Because our educators and caregivers didn't know any better, most of us grew up with ineffective study habits. Countless hours have been wasted in classrooms and in home study, and have often yielded frustration, self-limiting beliefs, and low self-esteem. However, there's no need to take it anymore! No matter what your age, you can learn successfully and with delight. Freud popularized the concept of the subconscious (or what is sometimes also called the unconscious or the non-conscious). Although your conscious mind plays an important role, learning has much more to do with non-conscious processing than with conscious thought. Remember that, as you learn how to nourish and develop it, your mind's chief responsibility is your protection; in fact, your survival. Let me use an analogy to explain the power of the subconscious mind. If your feet are flat on the floor, the area under your feet corresponds to the processing ability of your conscious mind. The floor area in the room not covered by your feet represents the power of your subconscious mind. Your conscious mind operates at around 126 bits per second, and your subconscious mind is 10,000 times faster. Clearly, the power is really in the subconscious. As a therapist, I have found that most issues that adults present to me originate in their first seven years of life. This imprint phase of social development is at a time when the conscious mind is not yet fully developed, before growth of a vital filter to assess incoming information's validity, the so-called Critical Faculty. Well aware of this, advertisers use the term Critical Faculty Bypass when weighing the effectiveness of advertisements. If the advertising message gets through to the emotional subconscious mind, then the likelihood of purchase increases. What does this have to do with learning? Quite a lot. Read on. If life-long patterns are set in the first seven years of life, then it's important for parents, older siblings, coaches, teachers, and any other influencers to be extremely careful with their language, both verbal and non-verbal. If a parent says, "You're just like your father. You'll never amount to anything" or "It's a good thing you're cute, because you're not very smart". The messages go directly, in the absence of a strong Critical Faculty, to the subconscious where accepted as valid, they begin to form patterns and beliefs. Subsequent fractured self-esteem and self-doubt results. Elephant trainers use an interesting control technique. When an elephant is still very young, the trainer attaches one end of a strong chain to one of the elephant's legs, and the other end to a stake. This allows the animal the freedom of a very defined circle, and, harnessed day after day, the elephant learns that this circle is its only territory. As the years go by, the chain is progressively exchanged for thinner and thinner ropes. The trainer knows that the elephant could walk away at any time, but the elephant doesn't catch on, and so remains within the defined circle. Important questions for you from this are: What's your circle? What are your self-limiting beliefs? Bestselling author and international speaker, Brian E. Walsh retired from a 30-year management career to further his earlier interest in NLP and hypnotherapy. He returned to formal study, and within four years had achieved his PhD. Dr. Walsh regularly conducts workshops and teleclasses on enriched learning. He is a master practitioner of NLP, an acupuncture detoxification specialist, an EFT practitioner, and a clinical hypnotherapist. His eZine, "Personal Enrichment Digest" has subscribers around the world. His most recent release is a 90-minute DVD of his presentation, "Enriched Learning". He has also co-authored with John Gray and Jack Canfield in the self-help book, "101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life: Volume 2." His website is http://www.WalshSeminars.com

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The Power of "I AM"

Words have the power to create or destroy. The way we use them determines the results they will bring. We repeat negative words concerning situations and events and consequently create more undesirable situations in return.As a child with an unsatisfactory grade on your report card, you thought to yourself, I am not smart. In a competition, you place below first and say, I am not talented. If criticized you believe, I am not good. Looking in the mirror and comparing yourself to peers and movie stars, you tell yourself, I am not attractive. A relationship fails and you think, I am undeserving. Negative affirmations similar to these are repeated constantly through our developmental years and into adulthood and become your core defining self-concept.Overcoming the I am not mentality means you must trust in the power of I am. Joel Osteen said, "What follows the "I AM" will always come looking for you." Each moment our self talk, beliefs and in turn how we feel (the Law of Attraction) creates the course of our lives. The subconscious mind accepts as true what you keep telling it and will then attract corresponding situations into your life. So why would you choose anything but positive statements?What do you want to define your life by? Start by taking an inventory of these things. Then, in your thoughts and imagination, make an intentional shift from I am not or I am hoping - to I am. Sounds simple enough right?In your inner dialogue, change the words you use to define yourself, thus creating a new self-concept. This will steer your mindset away from the I am not mentality. By rewording your inner world, you are taking the first step in fulfilling your dreams and desires.Returning to the negative affirmations we tell ourselves, now with your new inner dialogue...Instead of I am not able to get a job, shift that to I am capable.Or I am unlucky in love becomes I am love.I am unworthy of happiness becomes I am happiness.Instead of saying things like, when I am successful or when I have more money, choose language such as...I am successful.I am abundant and have everything I need.The words I am, have the power to create. They can create a new definition of who you are and what you are capable of. Break the lifelong cycle of negativity and watch as you rise to unimagined heights. If your outer self can accept the limitless power of your inner spirit, then the things placed in your imagination can become reality.Examine YOUR I AM, what are your speaking over in your life? Are your thoughts telling you no before you can even take action? Harness the power of I AM and kick those dreams into high gear!Keri Murphy and the Inspired Living team is on a mission to empower people to use their unique talents in a way that allows them to Dream, Live and BE all that is possible through speaking, coaching, celebrity interviews and original on-line content. Get Inspired at http://www.inspiredliving.tvArticle Source:

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